As some of the people who knows me think that I went from happy-go-lucky to "oh shit I am going to be a dad!" person. Well, it happened. We have to roll up our sleeves, be a man, and face the challenges. Before I knew myself better, I thought I was going to run away from responsibilities, but the moment I knew that I was going to be a dad, I thought that my life would change. I think I love change even if it is scary.
I think that challenges keep your feet on the ground and keep you moving forward. I think it makes you stronger, the more challenges you face, the more you become stronger.
Well, enough with the introductions and let us talk about what I find challenging being a dad.
1. Work-Parenting Balance
I find this challenging because working as a freelancer means I can work at home. At home, means I am always accessible by my child. Being accessible is being distracted from my work everytime she wants to play with me. Wanting to play with me means all the time!
My kid is turning three and by that, she falls into the category of "toddler" even though she is becoming a preschooler. At this stage, my kid just wants to play all the time, and can hardly understand explanations.
2. Keeping up with my Child's Energy
She is full of energy and wants to move around always. She climbs everywhere she can, and jumps as she finds this fun. As a dad, I don't want to keep her from having fun. I just can't keep protecting her from permanent injuries, all day. I don't have the energy anymore.
3. Waking up Every Night
My child does not sleep straight from night to morning. She suddenly cries every night. She wakes up to ask for milk or go to take a pee. Luckily, my wife wakes up for me. It has been like this since she was born. I just find it challenging as right now, I have not fully recovered from my illness and I need to get all the rest I can. Sometimes, I feel guilty about not waking up with her to tend our child's needs. This is what I find challenging, dealing with the guilt!
4. Disciplining the Child
This is my first child, and I find I want her to grow with good manners. All I know is that I have to keep my temperament in check when dealing with her and avoid shouting at her as this would affect her self-confidence.
5. Career and Husband Role
When you are married, you have to stay the same when you were still dating with your wife, if not better. Means give her fraction of your time, show her affection, and give her compliments. I usually work at our standard working hours, from 8 AM to 5 PM. After that, I would freshen up, take dinner, and would love to spare some time studying to improve my career. However, this is also the only time you may have quality time with your spouse, without compromising your sleep. Finding balance is challenging for me.
Well, that is all for our first blog. I mean consider this as a pilot episode of our blog. I just need to get something done every other day. This is necessary to improve my writing skills. See you on my next blog, guys!
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I think that challenges keep your feet on the ground and keep you moving forward. I think it makes you stronger, the more challenges you face, the more you become stronger.
Well, enough with the introductions and let us talk about what I find challenging being a dad.
1. Work-Parenting Balance
I find this challenging because working as a freelancer means I can work at home. At home, means I am always accessible by my child. Being accessible is being distracted from my work everytime she wants to play with me. Wanting to play with me means all the time!
My kid is turning three and by that, she falls into the category of "toddler" even though she is becoming a preschooler. At this stage, my kid just wants to play all the time, and can hardly understand explanations.
2. Keeping up with my Child's Energy
She is full of energy and wants to move around always. She climbs everywhere she can, and jumps as she finds this fun. As a dad, I don't want to keep her from having fun. I just can't keep protecting her from permanent injuries, all day. I don't have the energy anymore.
3. Waking up Every Night
My child does not sleep straight from night to morning. She suddenly cries every night. She wakes up to ask for milk or go to take a pee. Luckily, my wife wakes up for me. It has been like this since she was born. I just find it challenging as right now, I have not fully recovered from my illness and I need to get all the rest I can. Sometimes, I feel guilty about not waking up with her to tend our child's needs. This is what I find challenging, dealing with the guilt!
4. Disciplining the Child
This is my first child, and I find I want her to grow with good manners. All I know is that I have to keep my temperament in check when dealing with her and avoid shouting at her as this would affect her self-confidence.
5. Career and Husband Role
When you are married, you have to stay the same when you were still dating with your wife, if not better. Means give her fraction of your time, show her affection, and give her compliments. I usually work at our standard working hours, from 8 AM to 5 PM. After that, I would freshen up, take dinner, and would love to spare some time studying to improve my career. However, this is also the only time you may have quality time with your spouse, without compromising your sleep. Finding balance is challenging for me.
Well, that is all for our first blog. I mean consider this as a pilot episode of our blog. I just need to get something done every other day. This is necessary to improve my writing skills. See you on my next blog, guys!
